Published in The Curious Leader·Jul 31How to Prevent Emotional DebtHave you ever received something and sensed that there were strings attached? I also wonder if, on occasion, you judged there were strings when there were none. How can we discern between a genuine gift and a setup for emotional debt? Let’s find out. I looked across at my friend…Relationships3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jul 14Are You in a Relationship Based on Debt or Abundance?Let me ask you. How do you feel when you do a favour for someone, and that person says, “I owe you one”? Contrast that with when somebody does something for you. How does it feel when they say, “You owe me one”? Can I do something for you without…Emotional Intelligence2 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jun 29How to Get Out of Emotional DebtYou would not agree to a bank loan with unreasonable terms. So why would you agree to an emotional debt? What is the emotional debt you carry? If you called a bank and asked for a loan, the loan officer would likely meet with you to discuss your needs. They would ask you how much money you…Debt3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jun 13Heat, Pressure, Time. Are You Making Business Popcorn?There’s something about going to the movies. It’s not just about the big screen, the dark room, and the surround sound system. It’s the experience. Part of the experience for me is the hot buttered popcorn. I smell it when I walk into the theatre. As I sit in my…Business Strategy4 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·May 29Does The Body of Your Business Have Profit Anorexia?There is a look in my daughter’s eyes as she walks through the door. That look has been there since she was a baby. It says, ‘Feed me.’ Every mother knows that look. And yet, so many of us do not feed ourselves what we need. Eat! is what we…Business4 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·May 15Are Your Strategic Goals Keeping You Hungry?If money is the almighty goal for you, have the guts to say the exact number that would satisfy your business hunger. If you can’t come up with a number, be willing to ask yourself what it is you truly want. Choosing a strategic goal can be like opening the…Business3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Apr 27Emotional Processes and Real AccountabilityEveryone has blind spots. So how can we be accountable for what we don’t see? Here’s what I’d like you to get. Though we cannot see our emotional processes with the naked eye, we can observe them in the patterns that show up in our results. A pattern is a…Emotional Intelligence4 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Apr 13The Three Rules of Real Emotional AccountabilityConsider this. Can a fish climb a tree? If you said no, is it because the fish can’t breathe out of water? Or do you believe the tree can’t be underwater with the fish? There’s a good chance you chose one of those options. …Emotional Intelligence3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Mar 28What Does It Really Mean to Be Accountable?Consider this. If you want to be a painter and hold a paintbrush in your hand, are you willing to be made accountable to learn how to paint? …Accountability3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Mar 14Why Every Business Needs an Emotional RudderAs the captain of your ship, you must be at the helm. But you can’t simultaneously be at the helm and in the ship’s bowels redirecting the rudder. You can choose your direction but know it’s the ship’s rudder that keeps it on course. Enron was an oil and gas…Business4 min read
