Published in The Curious Leader·Nov 15Have We Confused Emotional Debt with Human Decency?There’s a Netflix show I love, and it’s called The Good Place. It stars Kristen Bell as Eleanor. In the show, Eleanor wants to learn how to be a good person, so she turns to a moral teacher who tells her that we owe it to each other to be…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Oct 13Are You Solving The Grief Attached to Your Emotional Debt?Looking pale and tired, my client greeted me with the faintest smile on her face. For a bit now, she had resisted feeling the grief attached to her emotional debt and letting it go. “Can I cut corners?” she asked in a low voice. …Emotional Intelligence3 min readEmotional Intelligence3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Sep 28Has “Ready!” Become The New Excuse to Procrastinate?I ran a poll where 70% of the respondents said they were ready to solve their emotional debt. However, not even a fraction of those people reached out to get that help. Has “Ready!” become the new excuse to mean “Not yet!”? If so, at what point does “Ready!” …Emotional Intelligence3 min readEmotional Intelligence3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Sep 21Are You Being Seduced by Emotional Debt?Pick a relationship where you got seduced by the other person. What went through your mind as they made you feel desired and wanted? Did you question their hidden agenda and yours? Or did you ignore the price to pay for throwing caution to the wind? Under the covers Seduction is a one-way…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Aug 31Caught in A Mousetrap of Emotional Debt?Imagine a world where the cheese on a mousetrap is placed there by another mouse. With that in mind, let me ask you: What’s your cheese? Think of a friend of yours and a relationship that feels off to you. Imagine you are observing that relationship. What is the need they maneuver you…Emotional Intelligence2 min readEmotional Intelligence2 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Aug 17Five Signs You Are in Emotional DebtEmotional debt is like an odourless gas that slowly poisons relationships. No one wants it in their backyard. Ignoring the problem won’t solve it. So, you’ve got to learn to recognize the five signs of emotional debt. Are you with me? Here they are: Let’s start by defining what emotional debt is. In my video, What Is Emotional…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jul 31How to Prevent Emotional DebtHave you ever received something and sensed that there were strings attached? I also wonder if, on occasion, you judged there were strings when there were none. How can we discern between a genuine gift and a setup for emotional debt? Let’s find out. I looked across at my friend…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jul 14Are You in a Relationship Based on Debt or Abundance?Let me ask you. How do you feel when you do a favour for someone, and that person says, “I owe you one”? Contrast that with when somebody does something for you. How does it feel when they say, “You owe me one”? Can I do something for you without…Emotional Intelligence2 min readEmotional Intelligence2 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jun 29How to Get Out of Emotional DebtYou would not agree to a bank loan with unreasonable terms. So why would you agree to an emotional debt? What is the emotional debt you carry? If you called a bank and asked for a loan, the loan officer would likely meet with you to discuss your needs. They would ask you how much money you…Debt3 min readDebt3 min read
Published in The Curious Leader·Jun 13Heat, Pressure, Time. Are You Making Business Popcorn?There’s something about going to the movies. It’s not just about the big screen, the dark room, and the surround sound system. It’s the experience. Part of the experience for me is the hot buttered popcorn. I smell it when I walk into the theatre. As I sit in my…Business Strategy4 min readBusiness Strategy4 min read
